On Boys: Mr. Right, Mr. Right Now, and Mr. Right-For-You

All girls have three basic templates of romantic guys in their life. Let me introduce them to you…

First, there’s Mr. Right Now. He’s the kind of guy who’s currently in your life. He’s visible, he’s persistent, and he’s a very viable option. He will seem to have all the time for you. He’ll want nothing more but to be around you. With all the attention, he’s going to make you feel good about yourself. But that’s just it. He’s right… for now. Whether he’s going to last for long is hazy. When people ask you if you can see him as the one you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, you answer with a smile and a shrug. Ask him and he’ll probably do the same thing. He wants a girlfriend and he’s bent on having one. He’s going to be a nice boyfriend, but is that all you want?

Then, there’s Mr. Right. All girls have a picture of him on their minds. He can be either tall, dark, and handsome (and uncannily reminiscent of Disney princes) or fair, nerdy, with a kind of schoolboy cuteness (taking after Chuck and some Koreanovela stars). He’s just perfect. The only problem is that he is non-existent. Yes. The secret’s out, girls. You probably will never find him walking on your plane of existence. Mr. Right is the guy of your dreams and will probably stay there.

Now, I’m not proposing that you should lower your standards and start falling for the next guy who comes along. What I’m saying is that who you think is perfect may not be the right one for you. There’s this other guy whom you have to wait for and get to know.

Mr. Right-For-You is not as cool and suave as Mr. Right Now nor as dreamy and perfect as Mr. Right. He may have some of the qualities that you liked about the other two, but he’s never exactly who you wanted. He may be very different from you. So much so that you’ll have to spend the rest of your life figuring each other out. He’ll have little quirks that, on other people, used to irritate you, but you’ll grow to accept them and even, perhaps, love them. You’re going to agree on the biggest things in life, but he won’t nod and tolerate the things that you do wrong. He’s going to nudge you to be a better person not because he wants you to, but because he knows you can and secretly want to. He knows when to keep a good distance when you need space, but he’ll never be too far away. Those are really good, but the best part about Mr. Right-For-You is that God made you especially for him.

In Genesis 2, it was God Himself who recognized that man needed a helpmeet. It was for that same reason that God made woman. And as Eve was fashioned out of Adam’s rib, you also are tailor-made for your Adam. You’ll have a rib in common, but the rest of you will be made of stuff that will complement him. The trick is in recognizing whether that “Mister” who’s in your life right now (and whose face keeps popping up as you’re reading this article) is Mr. Right Now, Mr. Right, or Mr. Right-For-You.

Mr. Right Now may choose you. You probably will choose Mr. Right. But God made Mr. Right-For-You just for you. And He always knows better than you.

Wait for yours.

He won’t be Mr. Right,

but he’ll be just right.

And that’s my two cents on that.